I was explaining a recent frustrating conversation with my mother to a friend. As a comparison I said I that talk to Mom about apples and she responds about oranges. There is a problem at her house that is becoming a major problem. I am trying to be helpful, but I’m not sure my help is wanted or appreciated.

My friend’s response was that she heard the love in how I was trying to talk to my mother.  That made me tear up.

“We are not called by God to do extraordinary things, but we do ordinary things with extraordinary love.” Jean Vanier

This quote made be cry. I do not feel I am sharing extraordinary love because I get frustrated with my mother. I hate that the aging process is taking Mom’s curiosity and cognitive abilities. I hate that she, once a woman of action, is unable to solve problems. I hate that I can’t fix this problem. I fear the messes my siblings and I will have resolve. I am watching the woman I have known my entire life slowly slip away. I fear losing all of her all together.

I pray for the courage and strength to care for her with extraordinary love

19 thoughts on “Extraordinary

  1. Writer McWriterson says:

    That is an amazing quote. I appreciate how your friend could hear your love for your mother in what you were saying to her. That is a wonderful friend.

    Watching our parents’ age is so difficult, isn’t it? I understand how you are feeling. Sending you so much love.

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  2. Lib Bain says:


    Liberty A thick and shapeless tree-trunk would never believe that it could become a statue, admired as a miracle of sculpture, and would never submit itself to the chisel of the sculptor, who sees by her genius what she can make of it. (St. Ignatius).



  3. Debbie says:

    I’m right there with you, Sarah. It’s hard, but somebody’s gotta do it. I think we do the best we can under really difficult circumstances. Don’t let fear get in the way! You’ll be graced with the strength you need at the time you need it most!

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  4. Robin says:

    This is such hard stuff to be going through. I feel somewhere in the middle of it, not far from having to watch my own parents (and in-laws) go through this and probably driving my adult children crazy as they notice me forgetting things. When my mother-in-law was deep in her dementia (and no longer recognized anyone, not even her own children), someone said to me that they thought dementia was a form of the spirit having already left the body. It made sense at the time, and maybe a little easier to have already lost her (even though her living body was still here). She had been such a vibrant woman and the change was staggering.


  5. ZeroSpace says:

    I feel compassion for you on this. That would be very hard to deal with. I didn’t respond at first because it’s such a heavy serious thing that I didn’t know what to say. Which is how people are, you know, we all tend to sort of claim up when we witness someone else enduring something difficult beyond words. But I wanted to show support even if I means risking a little inarticulacy

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